Comments on: When Should You Tell Your Boss You Are Pregnant?

By: MITBeta @ Don't Feed the Alligators

MITBeta @ Don't Feed the Alligators — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 01:16:49 +0000

Congrats! On the other hand, my boss was thrilled when I told him that my wife was expecting our first. His motives were purely selfish. Statistically men are not likely to leave a good job or move for that matter when they have young children…

By: Ryan

Ryan — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 13:44:54 +0000

nun: What an awful situation. It’s too bad when people take advantage of their pregnancy, whether they intend to or not.

By: nun

nun — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 13:22:39 +0000

I’ve seen this situation before. We hired a young woman from overseas who failed to inform us she’s pregnant. I basically wasted 6+ months training her and then she disappeared on maternity leave. Coming back she could barely do anything, having forgotten a lot of the training, and also frequently out of the office for her baby. I’ve never seen someone so blatantly take advantage like this.

By: MoneyNing

MoneyNing — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 16:16:33 +0000

I can’t remember (even if my life depended on it) whether I congratulated you or not Anyway, congratulations Ryan!!!

When the time comes, I’m sure my wife will instantly tell everyone, including everyone at work. I’m sure it all depends on how the work atmosphere is like, but if you don’t think it’s a big deal, your boss won’t either. Of course, letting him know that you will be fine and just plan to take a few weeks off ahead of time is reassuring but the bigger deal you make it to be, the bigger impact others will feel.

By: Ron@TheWisdomJournal

Ron@TheWisdomJournal — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 13:04:15 +0000

I know several people who told friends and family the instant they found out and later miscarried. It was traumatic, especially for big brothers and sisters (who were less than 6 years old). Waiting, like plonkee said, is probably a good idea.

Also, the advice. Oh the advice. It comes in waves and never seems to end. One thing that drove me crazy was the number of people who, after the baby was born, wondered when we were having another one! My standard reply was, “After we get back from Europe.” Then, all they wanted to talk about was my non-existent trip. It changed the subject though! lol

By: plonkee

plonkee — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 11:08:13 +0000

I know quite a few people don’t like to tell anyone except extremely close family/friends until they are 13 weeks, it’s not wanting to make it common knowledge until the main risk of miscarriage has passed. Obviously if it becomes an issue (as in your wife’s case) then you will have to anyway. In the UK we have reasonable maternity benefits (a fair amount of paid/semi-paid leave) which only kick in after you’ve been in a job for a certain length of time – that might affect when you formally announce your pregnancy.

By: Curious Cat Investing Blog

Curious Cat Investing Blog — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 20:47:54 +0000

I don’t think I should ever tell my boss I am pregnant.

– John

By: Ryan

Ryan — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 20:38:23 +0000

Neal: Yes, my wife is feeling well now, thanks. Her boss was understanding of the situation, and there were no problems with how she was treated or how the situation was handled. She is still working now, and we have discussed how we will go forward when the baby arrives. I’ll save that part for another article, though.